Your suggestions helped me transfer away from a toxic boss!

I want to say thank you, again. I was active in the ‘really worn down’ post, and I took inspiration from u/bodega_bae who mentioned documenting a very professional list of the ways my manager was not meeting my expectations.

I did that. My insecure toxic boss that doesn’t communicate with me really dialed it in with my annual review, then asked me to schedule a meeting with him to go through it. I instead requested we go through it with 2 directors, one is my director (his boss, also a blowhard), and another director I work closely with (who is amazing).

In this meeting, I sat at the head of the table and schooled all of them on what my job actually is, since none of them know how to do it. I listed numerous examples of my boss negatively impacting my work, and creating a hostile work environment, mentioned how I was demoralized, and how he was not meeting my expectations as a manager.

These 3 white men were spooked.

The next morning, the 2 directors called me back into the room and offered to help me open an HR investigation, and offered me a transfer to another division- reporting directly to that amazing director.

Thank you so much for sharing your stories. It gave me the courage, and sharp (but PROFESSIONAL!) wording to sort out this bs myself.

If it somehow still doesn’t work out, I also have a lateral move in another state agency that was literally created for me. If my current job transfer is a promotion with a great boss, I would stay though.