I (31F) am married to a man(34M) with wandering eye and I feel disrespected. How do I approach this with him without making him feel attacked

I have been married for 2 years to a man that has a wandering eye and didn’t realize about that at the beginning of the relationship. I understand that some of you are 100% okay with your partners having sexual attraction towards other people and checking them out or staring at others for long periods is okay with you but my believes amd boundaries don’t align with that so when commenting im looking for advice and insight on how to approach this with him again. At this point I’m not sure how to deal with his wandering eye. I understand to look briefly at people but I dont like the double checking and starting at someone. I don’t feel insecure about him cheating on me or anything like that I just find it very disrespectful and my entire life I have think that I dont like a man like that because doesn’t respect the present of his woman and no one likes to show off a man like that in public. When I see him having That behavior makes me hateful towards him, don’t want to be around him and just dislike him. That is my only issue with him other than that I think we have a good relationship but I have approach him about it a couple times and I saw this behavior towards a friend of mine, one of my cousins and even his dad’s wife and that repulses me. The times that I approached him I used an accusation tone so I would like to approach him different this time and need help with that