Postponing wedding until 2026...

This is long so I put a TLDR down the bottom but I would appreciate the read if you can manage!

Hey everyone,

Just wanted to post on here and just express how I'm feeling about postponing my wedding until 2026. A long vent it you will 😅

Admittedly, I haven't done alot of planning the last couple months because of personal reasons, settling into a new job etc.

However, I am kind of really devastated at the idea that I won't be getting married next year and I can't say in a few hours time (it being 31st December here) 'I'm getting married this year' or 'it's my turn this year' or some silly stuff like that.

I know that we made a joint decision about postponing and it'll help in the long run to save more and find better ways to be cost effective for our wedding but it just breaks my heart a little bit.

We originally set a date for Oct 2025 and I was so excited to get all the planning underway, however, we hit a snag and had some family drama happen (my family sticking their nose in my business and having a say on what we do with our money or our relationship) and other contributing factors that led us to postpone.

Anyway, I just wanted to reach out and ask if there has been anyone on here or a friend of yours that has decided to postpone their wedding another year and how did you go about feeling okay with that? Was there a sense of peace or calm knowing that you have an extra year to plan and make it right? Make the day more about you and your future husband than what specific guests you should invite and all that pomp and circumstance? Did you come to terms with it and ultimately feel happy about your decision because you had an extra year to plan?

A little context - with the postponement to 2026 we have decided to have a small wedding (30-45 people max) instead of a larger wedding with almost 85 people and I'm scoping out more affordable venues/places as we decided to get rid of our original venue that we already put a deposit down for (defs going to lose our $$$ on that). I have a few ideas about where to start with friends and family that can help out with florals, entertainment etc which is great but I guess I'm sad that all this isn't happening in the new year. The excitement and all the little details etc.

There is also this nagging feeling in my head about wanting to start a family. I am not getting any younger and I want to start having kids shortly after getting married and my biological clock is ticking (maybe that's society talking too). I know that might be bit of an overreaction but I want to be a mum so much and I'm already in my 30's... (I'm 32 and 34 by the time I'm married) it's going to be a slow two years lol. We also need to be in a financially good place too so that's yet another factor.

If there are any words of wisdom you may have for me or any advice would be appreciated to stop feeling this way because I know it's the best road forward but I'm human and I can't help feeling this way.

It's our day at the end of it and we are moving forward in the right direction with postponing it but it's going to be a bittersweet 2025 for me.

TLDR: I was supposed to be getting married in Oct 2025 but need to postpone till 2026 due to stress and saving money and other factors so I'm feeling a bit sad about it so I need some advice on how to move on from feeling this way and to have the reassurance that it'll turn out well in the end and I can feel energised about my 2026 wedding!

Any advice would be appreciated - good or bad. Thank you 🙏🏻✨️