i cannot seem to achieve any romantic connection

everytime a dude likes me i basically friendzone them… i don’t know why… i feel like i always need to be the one who makes the moves. and idk why im like this. perhaps it’s me being TOO much of an independent woman. or maybe im too picky. i’ve never had a boyfriend. idk dude. i usually go for shy nerds but i cannot seem to get past the platonic stage. my brain literally refuses to let me do anything remotely romantic. all i do is charm them a little and just say they’re my friend. in freshman year i had this situationship and i did not make a singular move and neither did he. now we’re just friends. why am i like this? can anyone relate or like help me