It’s not a big deal…

After running errands all day with DH, I come home and find a bunch of stuff on my desk that is usually in the desk drawer. I ask DH if he went into my desk for something and he says “no, ask the kids”. I tell him, “nope”. I don’t want to get into it, I know they took something (they always take my phone charger, which was still in the drawer, not to mention stealing money and breaking my stuff) and I don’t want to deal with it because nothing ever changes. After telling me multiple times to ask the kids, to which I keep replying “no”, DH goes and asks SKs (both teens) if they went into my desk for anything.

SKs say no several times, then change the story to some things fell off my desk and they picked them up so the dog wouldn’t get them. I tell DH that stuff would not have been on top of the desk, those things are always inside the drawer. DH goes back to SKs (frustrated with me, as usual, for not believing SKs). And they finally admit to looking through my desk for something to steal (their actual words!). Like, what??? SKs then say that they were going to steal something, but decided not to.

After DH makes them apologize and we have a discussion about why we don’t trust them (we literally had to put a lock on our bedroom door to stop them from taking stuff and I have purchased a lock for my desk drawer that I haven’t installed yet), DH says there will be a punishment, but he’ll figure it out tomorrow since it was late.

Then, when we’re alone DH tells me that I shouldn’t make it such a big deal since they didn’t actually take anything??? I said the reason they didn’t take anything is not because of their conscience, it’s probably because they heard us get home and ran to their bedrooms, which is why there was a bunch of random stuff on the desk instead of back in the drawer. But I shouldn’t make it a big deal because they didn’t actually take anything 😂 😭