how do i accept being an ugly woman?

im not a pretty girl. im by most standards unattractive and ive asked people before and they all agree that i am not attractive. it sucks because as a woman, your looks are tied to your humanity. i’ve been treated horribly my whole life and especially by men. i thought losing 60 pounds would help but im still ugly. to make matters worse i can’t change the feature that makes me ugly because its my eye size. i’m in a long distance relationship but i feel like if my bf ever saw me in person, he might be disgusted. what should i do? i feel really down most days because it can be unbearable