no desire to date at all

im 21. not fat , not depressed and not on any kind of medicine lol i just cant wrap my head around the fact that i have to .. date? that i SHOULD be craving it?? i mean im an extrovert with a decent amount of friends i hang out relatively often with so its not like im a holed up femcel scared of men its just that i dont like being in a relationship and i cant figure out why. god. having to swipe up on ig stories , texting every morning , worrying about following counts , oh this guy likes pussies bald so now i have to rzzt rzzt that shit every morning because who knows when hes gonna wanna hit it , his interests are lame and i dont care about them , oh so now hes telling me about Map Games , oh okay his favorite band is Joy Division and his favorite song is Love Will Tear Us Apart , oh okay we have to facetime twice a day , oh i now have to share my space ........ blablabla ohh but youre wasting your prime years babe youre gonna end up a [GASP] cat lady?!? ok but what if ive been miserable in every (attempted) relationship ive been in lol. i end up coming across as so wholly disinterested which isnt fair at all to the guy in question. i dont feel like breaking my peace and my routine for what ultimately feels like really little benefit . my standards arent high at all (dont you hit me w the ermmmm your standards are too high mlady sir i SEE you typing!!!) its just that they all seem so lame in a way i cant articulate. i j dont feel like keeping up the game!!!! and yes ive considered lesbianism. no its not for me. IDK im at a loss , anybody else?im possibly stunting my growth with this.