34F & 49M

I'm 34F and my boyfriend 49M have been together for 15 years. Our romantic life has never been that great. But sex life seemed ok. We broke up twice and haven't been the same. We have sex maybe once a month if that. I told him i need to be cuddled once a week and sex once a week. He won't give me that. At this point I'm looking to better my pay/hours and leave him. And don't think it's just over that. He gets roadrage so bad that he tries to fight people. I have high anxiety cause of him. His main mood is anger. However, I do want to make things work. What would yall do in this situation?