My sexually pushy boyfriend (19M) wouldn't stop sexually touching me (19F) in public despite me telling him 'no' over and over, and I pushed him away physically, and he's acting like I abused him. Any advice on how to process this?
My boyfriend and I have been together for about four months now. We're both in the same college, living on campus. For background, sexuality has been a recurring point of contention between us. And it seems to be getting worse and worse, with this being a new, dramatic escalation.
For background, both he and I are very sexually inexperienced. I had no sexual experience whatsoever before him. He, on the other hand, is a virgin, but he has randomly hooked up with a girl in the past for blowjobs. Even though he's from a religious household and is religious himself, he's very sexually inclined. I have given him lots of blowjobs, and he's fingered and gone down on me. But the issue is that I'm not ready to have real sex yet. Part of it is my upbringing, which makes me feel like anything sexual is dirty or wrong. And I'm scared of the risk of pregnancy while I'm in school. He knows all this. And because we haven't been together that long. But he keeps pushing for us (kinda single-mindedly) to have sex regardless.
The other night, we were hanging out outside near the dorms. I had my back up against a wall, leaning on it, as we talked. He was in front of me. He started to get really sexual, touching me with his hand between my legs. (I had jeans on.) This was 100% not okay. He knew that I wasn't that kind of person, and that I was always super uncomfortable with that kind of public play. He's done this in smaller ways before that I criticized him for. But he never kept going before.
I told him to stop. He stopped for a second, backed up, and then went and touched me between my legs again. I told him to stop again. This went back and forth a few times, with me telling him very firmly to stop, and him stopping for a split second and then doing it again, or just not stopping. After a few times, I pushed him back to get him away from me. I didn't push him that hard, but he tripped on some uneven ground and kinda rolled backwards.
He's not hurt at all. But right after, he took it really hard. He acted like I was the wrong one, and now he's saying that I abused him. I'm so insecure about it all. I feel like I was right to push him, because he was the one sexually touching me despite him knowing that's not okay in public and me repeatedly telling him to stop the night this happened. But then, I immediately start thinking that I was too harsh on him and that it's somehow me overreacting. He only brings up what I did. When I bring up him touching me, he barely responds, usually with "I'm your boyfriend. You're overreacting. You're the one who attacked me." etc.
What do you all make of my behavior and my boyfriend's behavior? And what do you make of his sexual pushiness in general?
TLDR: My (19F) boyfriend (19M) wouldn't stop touching me sexually in public, despite me telling him not to, and I pushed him away, and he fell. He's saying I abused him because of it. He's also been pressuring me for sex a lot.