"You didn't want to do anything"

This is what father used to say when I brought up him not being there for me in any way; other parents help their sons with taking steps in life such as preparing for taking the driver's license, find a hobby, career they enjoy.

I remember getting a discount on driving lessons as part of the prize in highschool; found it after years laying in a drawer. At the time I did not even consider it to matter; was strongly against getting the license; I was not allowed to be in the front seat until my 20s. Now at 33, after failing the driving exam thrice (froze up) am thinking of trying again but it's really difficult; my life has been "hit or miss" when it came to exams or tests of any sort, mostly ending with a miss.

Father told me, I never wanted to do anything, but when I did, it was met with ridicule and criticism (being an idiot; I liked playing video games on a pc but whenever I did my father would push me away literally and show me how it's done, to a 7 year old). I liked playing chess but he never sent me to a club or looked for a coach, I lost to him repeatedly at 8 and, in time, gave up on hobbies, liking anything.

Did anyone go through anything like this?