Nmom Gave Silent Treatment and I Refuse to Break It

So since the beginning of this year, she started gave my siblings and I silent treatment. All I can remember is the night previously. So my family had a tradition of telling our regrets about the previous year, and telling resolutions for the new year (I hated it because it only turns as the children's confession and the parents only GIVE ADVICE and not confessing their mistakes too). In preparation of that, I recorded the whole session (pretended like making a vlog) for documentation purpose. This year, she said something along the "I don't want to give anymore advice". My brother responded by saying "it's like you've gave up on us," but then I told him "it's okay, we're adults after all, we can take care of ourselves". I wonder if that's the trigger, but the day after she did not start any conversation.

Now learning from experience, all road goes to hell when it comes to breaking her silent treatment. We would get scolded for trying to start conversation, so I choosed not to say anything. Yet eventually dad scold me for not trying to talk to her. He also insist that I should apologize but I don't want to apologize for something I didn't do. So day passed by eating the food I bought myself, doing responsibilities, trying to basically fulfill my needs on my own to avoid talking to her at all.

On top of that, I had a history of her trying to micromanage my school life. It has gotten to a point where I purposely sabotage my life so that she had no control over it. Her control and weird behaviour really discouraged me from doing things, because other people are also affected and uncomfortable of it. And recently I participated in a bootcamp (that she forced me to join), I feel that she wants to insert herself and can't wait to micromanage everything again.

So today after I finished my first orientation, she trying to open up communication, "oh you just finished?" I refused to answer. Because: 1. she gave no explanation 2. she acted like there's no problem and I refuse to PRETEND there's no problem. 3. if we're going back as usual, I'll be at disadvantage for having to regulate HER emotions again 4. if we're not talking anymore, SHE'S the one in disadvantage because she had no one to vent/regulate her emotions other than Edad.

So she ended up throw a temper tantrum and dad starts to scold me and told me to answer her. I refused and told him, "it doesn't make sense". This whole ordeal DOESN'T MAKE SENSE and I refuse to participate in something that doesn't make sense. So dad left and slammed the door.

(As I write this post, she made a ruckuss by breaking a plate in the kitchen.)