tired of the “want goth mommy” porn addicts

(20F), in my dating life i keep seeing this trend of guys who want “goth dommy mommies” along with it being literally all over social media with the majority of men stating theyd rather have a “goth mommy”, and continually sexualizing/stereotyping goth women into some fantasy.

im a small woman who enjoys the softer aesthetics & dress very coquette/“soft girl”, i have that “golden retriever girl energy” ig, and everytime ive had a situationship with a guy they want me to dress more goth. even my current bf who i love very much was always so open about wanting a “goth mommy”, and he swears that he likes me the way i am but i just cant seem to shake the fear he would rather me be more like my opposite counterpart. i love him so much and hes a great guy but i constantly worry about him cheating on me with one of them because im just not his type. and i cant just change my style & personality to be that way bc its so different from who i am. it eats away at my self esteem, i dont feel good enough, like hes just “settling” for me.

in media its always portrayed that the “preppy girl” gets all the guys and the “weird goth girl” is socially shunned and outcasted, and while yes i tend to pull alot of people the few affections i reciprocate (maybe cuz i like nerdy guys) always follow those instagram pages of goth/alternative women who are nothing like me. its like so many guys these days want a dominant “mommy” and its just not who i am.

i want someone to be soft around, to be in touch with my feminine energy, someone who genuinely loves that i love cute things & dress dainty, and who dont fantasize about or feel like theyre missing out on that kind of woman when dating me. maybe times are changing but its stereotyped that so many men love girls like me. where?? where????????? maybe its the crowd im in & the guys im attracted to, but is there love for soft bubbly girls anymore? :(

btw! im bisexual, and this ONLY seems to be the case with men ??