I keep thinking that dating someone “on the path” doesn’t or shouldn’t matter, but it clearly does. [27M]

At least at this stage into my own deepening into being, it just feels like a distraction, and quite lonely, to date someone who’s uninterested in their true nature.

I’ve tried dating people who aren’t, and have told myself it’s not necessary that they are because any relationship is a teacher and holds a mirror to your own wounds, so that you can work through them. I still think that’s true. But I inevitably just feel this intuitive “no”, that no matter how much I want to make it work, pulls me out of the relationship. I’ll try and talk about this nondual “thing” that has transformed my life and how it matters to me, but it usually comes out clunky and I feel like I come off as a spiritual douchebag who is asking for something that they can never fill because they have no idea what I’m talking about.

Awakening is one of the most worthwhile pursuits of my life. I want to inquire into my true nature, I want to deepen into being, and if I am going to commit to someone, I want to be able to do that alongside them. It just seems obvious that if two people are on the same page about that, that it could accelerate that process to have a partner who is totally in alignment with that path and wanting that for you. And that to have a partner who is not in alignment with it will serve as a distraction, unless you already have a strong foundation of awakening and thus feel confident walking that path alone.

Awakening can be lonely, and I don’t think it has to be. I think that having a partner, a friend, in it, can only serve to bring you further along the path. And if you have a romantic partner, and they also happen to be on the path, then surely that is only for the better.

I’m open to being challenged on this. I do have an avoidant attachment style, so it’s tricky because i think that also plays into things. But I also just really want my partner to be interested in awakening. Is that wrong? Is that worth looking for?

I also don’t even know how I would begin, because it’s rare to find awakened people in my town. I wish we had our own dating app.

What are your thoughts on this?