This isn’t normal is it?

Hello I’m a 22M student living in canada with my african mom. My mom and I have our load of differences but it seems that the more I look for independence and show my will to move out to do things on my own the more age uses guilt trip tactics such as trying to make me feel bad because she is “sick” and who is gonna take care of her if I’m gone, throw anger tantrums when I dont do things as she want because I’m occupied at work or other things. But the weirdest of them all is everytime I mention being in a relationship or at least talking to a girl she starts to panick and try to find reasons as to why I shouldn’t venture into that among other things. Now obviously I still don’t listen but that ain’t normal is it?