I want to move out of state, husband does not

I am 40 and have a great desire to move back to where I'm from (down South). My husband (48) is a good man and a great provider ($300K+ job), and I stay home after quitting my own 6-figure job that I moved up here for originally. Our kids are in private school, and honestly we have a great life (no infidelity, CC membership, luxury cars etc) - I'm just not a fan of this area (crime and pyscho drivers on the roads here).

I want my girls to grow up like I did, with good local public schools in a less populated area. The issue is that there aren't nearly the same sorts of jobs for him where I am from so we'd talked about him flying down on weekends but that would involve 2 house payments, $20,000/year in flights (12 hour drive to and from otherwise), and added stress for him always commuting. He countered that we could just move out to an even nicer area here, but I don't want to do that either; I guess home is where the heart is.

Obviously money spent on a 2nd house and flights would add up and we might have to push his retirement back, and at present we have no college fund for the kids which is a concern. He is from here and while its not ideal, he is willing to do anything for our kids future.

But he thinks because he "let" me be a stay at home mom (which I wanted) I shouldn't tell him how to earn a living.

Am I crazy? I feel like we argue about this every week, and I just can't let it go.

**I just want to add, I did talk to my brother-in-law about my husband working remotely for him and he could do that anywhere. It would be less money and my husband said that's the one company he'd absolutely never work for, but I did find him something at least.

tl;dr Home is where the heart is