Progress question

Good time of the day to all the judokas here. Shortly about myself,I am a 20 year-old BJJ guy that does judo for additional takedown knowledge. I have been training judo for the past three weeks,two days a week. During randori,I try to be relaxed(today,as i had a session,i was probably little too relaxed),my coach tells me to break grips/disrupt the balance of my opponent. But,the thing is,I do not understand jack of what I am doing at all. I dont know what to do after i I pull/shortly disrupt the balance. I know that three weeks is a very short term, but still,when do I start recognizing "patterns",so that when I grip and pull in the certain way,I can perform,for instance "deashi harai" or even a basic "o Soto gari"? I just want to know,when will I recognize those patterns? Will it happen by itself as long as I spar and show up? Thank you all in advance! If you want me to elaborate on certain points - I will be glad to do it! Again,thanks!