The t4t bashing needs to stop

Somewhat of a rant I guess. Idk why people here tend to shame people for being t4t. Like someone will make a positivity post about their t4t relationship and someone will shame them for being t4t. Usually they’ll bring up their own negative experiences with other trans partners as a way of showing their point, and of course I’m not trying to invalidate them for their shitty experiences. However just because you had bad experiences with t4t doesn’t give you the right to project that onto someone else. It’s frankly a bit selfish and uncalled for. It’s also an unfair generalization because every trans person is different and has different sexual orientations and preferences.

It is true that t4t shouldn’t be idealized or romanticized, but that’s just because it’s no different from relationships with any other kind of person. However just as some trans people prefer to primarily date cisgender people, others have their reasons to only date other trans people. And some of them are personal too. I have my reasons, but I’m not gonna bash anyone who prefers to only date or be intimate with cis people cause everyone has preferences to some degree.

Long story short: please don’t yuck someone else’s yum.