Telling parents I want to fly

I've seen a lot of posts on here about kids saying their parents don't want them to get a PPL because xyz, and the advice from you guys that I normally see is to wait until they're 18 where they have legal autonomy and pay for it themselves.

I'm in college right now, and I've casually mentioned the idea of riding in a smaller plane, as a passenger, to my mom. She vetoed the idea by saying it's too dangerous (to just ride, as a passenger, in a small plane, with a certified pilot) based on an experience she and my dad had in a tourism helicopter over twenty years ago, where she felt the helicopter ride was "very rough." She didn't receive the impression that I actually wanted to learn to fly a plane and get my PPL, which would probably elicit even more opposition if I'd told her. I also know that if I tell her I want to become an airline pilot, she will likely not be too thrilled with the idea, mainly for the aforementioned safety reason in the training process, and the fact that being a pilot was not what she envisioned for me.

My question is how do I tell her I want to start flight training, and that I want to do this as a career? My hope is to save up for a year or two and then grind out my PPL over one of my summer breaks. I'm already a legal adult, so the "wait until you're 18 and pay yourself" solution doesn't really apply here. I feel that since I'm still living at my parents' house over summer breaks, it's kind of a "my house my rules" situation with my mom, and I don't think I'd fare well if I put myself into potentially dangerous situations without her permission. Not telling her isn't really an option either because she'll find out eventually; she's like that.

I guess the solution most of you would propose is to wait until I move out? But I want to get my PPL while I'm still in college since I won't have quite as many responsibilities compared to when I move out, get a job, and start paying my own bills. I also would much rather ask in a way to get my mom on board with the idea, since her support would mean a lot.

Just for some additional context: I come from a family that...fulfills a lot of the Asian stereotypes, so my parents aren't as "nice" as my peers' and being a pilot doesn't really line up with their hopes of what I'd become. My parents can be super dismissive, not because they don't love me, but I think they just have really bad emotional intelligence. I guess I've just never been good at telling them what I want, because in the instances when they said no, they'd always make me feel ashamed of myself for asking (and that's kinda led to a massive fear of rejection which is why I'm so hesitant to bring up this subject to them). Sorry for the slight side tangent.

Edit: Just thought I might add, how did you guys tell your parents this was the profession you wanted to go into? Especially if this was a major diversion from the life path you initially expected, was it easy to be taken seriously?