any advice on how to control my anger

hi so i struggle a lot with managing my emotions mostly anger. i think emotionally rather than logically and it’s really bad. i argue with ny bf a lot over the smallest things and even when he’s being kind and understanding and i’m still so rude and hostile, i’m completely aware of it in the movement but i never do anything about it i just act on emotions and i feel so bad about it. i notice when i haven’t eaten enough i start to feel this way too but even when i have i’m just not very emotionally intelligent. it’s making me depressed, i’m really toxic too. i have no right to act that way especially when he’s being so kind.. idk what’s wrong with me anymore