How to respond to a breakup text?
I was dating a guy for about two months. I met his friends, I met his dad, he was strongly pursuing me, maybe a little too strong and too fast? Either way, I felt secure that he liked me and there was potential for a solid relationship.
Yesterday he wanted to talk over phone so we scheduled a call in the evening. 30 min before our planned time he said he couldn’t call because of work. He did not try and schedule a new time.
I told him that I was getting vibes he didn’t want to move forward with me and I asked him if that’s the case to let me know asap because the suspense was making me anxious. I had been thinking about the phone call all day at work.
About an hour later, he sends me a long text message that he has done reflecting and I said something upsetting to him over a phone call one time and he wants to end it.
I’m shocked. I don’t know exactly what it is I said, but if it is what I am hunch it may be, that phone call was about 2 weeks ago. I would have hoped that if I had hurt him, based on where we were in our relationship, that he would have wanted to discuss it with me so I could understand how I heard him, apologize, share my point of view, etc.
I thought we had a really good thing going, he texted me every day, had our next date planned, sent me lots of selfies, seemed engaged and interested in my life, etc. I am just shocked how abruptly it flipped and he decided to end it over text.
As of right now I have not responded to him. In his breakup text, he did offer to have a phone call for clarity and closure. Some friends I have consulted said that I should not respond and move on. That his behavior is confusing and I don’t need that in my life.
Other friends have said that maybe we should talk after we let our emotions settle. My gut says he moved too fast which was possibly a red flag. I am questioning whether he actually liked me or if he just liked the idea of me and didn’t get a chance to really get to know me. But also I really enjoyed dating him and spending time with him. I was really looking forward to seeing him again.
Curious to know if anyone has also been in this situation or has any advice.