Wife Did Nothing For Our Anniversary

5 years. Feels bad, guys. I’m trying to be understanding because I know she’s tired and stressed. Our 1yo has been sick a lot lately, work is a lot, and housework is ever-present (we split things but even then it’s a lot). Christmas also just happened and she got me a few nice gifts. But I stayed up late every night for 2 weeks making her a nice gift, wrote a lovely card, got up early to set it out and surprise her, and gave her a lengthy back massage. I knew our relationship would have to lose some priority with kids, but this stings. Anyone struggled with their relationship taking a back-seat? Any advice?

Update: Thanks for all of the input and different perspectives. Had a gentle conversation this morning because she could tell something was off. I explained my feelings but placed no blame and talked about how I understand the situation. I acknowledged that she’s a loving partner who shows her affection in other ways and on other days. I just had some feelings I needed to process. I also acknowledged my lack of communication about any desires/expectations. We’re going to go out for a date tonight. All good in the neighborhood.