Got denied the surgery today.
I requested a bi-salp and this male doctor went on about how the "risks outweigh the benefits" and emphasized how removing the whole tube increases the risk of bleeding and the possibility for scar tissue to bind my reproductive parts to other structures in my abdomen, like my intestines. I want to hear from other people about this... doctors and patients. Who else has heard this? Do ya'll think he was just trying to scare me away and giving me excuses? I'm not unmotivated to get the surgery because plenty of women get this with no complications and there's nothing in the literature about this being significant enough for it not to be an option.
My initial thought was "wow this guy must not be confident in his surgical skills". My second thought was "in what world is the potential for a little scar tissue LESS of a risk than PREGNANCY, CHILD BIRTH, ABORTIONS, ECTOPIC PREGNANCIES, and ALL the other pregnancy related complications that cause women to die."
Then I asked if classic Tubal Ligation was an option AND HE STILL SAID NO FOR THE SAME REASONS.
Tbh I would have rather him say "because I'm not old enough" (I'm 25) instead of this crap. I know I just got a bad doctor, I guess I'm just looking for some validation and support.
Edit: Some of you are being so helpful after seeing a comment I left about living in Pennsylvania. I have 2 other doctors lined up before the new year, but I live in southeast PA, just above philly (but afraid of the city) and right across from New Jersey. So if anyone has any personal recommendations, DM me!