Are we not allowed to call our kids assholes?

So exhausted and have serious cardiac issues that are triggered by stress and sleep deprivation. In that regard, my life is hellish currently with a 5 month old and 2 year old. Husband is always going above and beyond but he’s also at his wits end. Our family/friends that help us are on vacation and the other family had a mental break down and refusing to step foot out of their house (another fiasco I can’t get into)

I vented on the parenting subreddit about how I feel my toddler is a dick for waking up my baby when my baby is such a good sleeper, but if he’s over tired he is a little baby jerk also. My toddler just went to the pediatrician and everything checked out fine, she said it’s a phase. My toddler is usually amazing at self soothing and love being in his room but lately it’s like a jam party up there (only soft toys and playpen around his bed to keep him in) he’s quite happy just SO fucking loud and waking up the baby, sometimes he whines for no reason.

Now I’m getting messages and shit about how I’m a shitty mom and don’t love my kids… what? I’m just venting. Are we not allowed to do that? I love my kids but he’s been a super jerk.