The onus is on you to "learn more"

A slight rant but I'm happy to have opposing views.

I saw this tiktok (https://vt.tiktok.com/ZS64wRfu2/) which slightly irked me because the overall message is "motherhood is a scam because no one told me xyz and they should do better to encourage you to find out more". I''m really tired of this idea that knowledge is kept secret from you on purpose and you just have to be shocked by what comes next.

It's your responsibility to find out more. No one in this subreddit falls under this because by the nature of you seeking out knowledge you're already taking that responsibility.

I'm not saying to read books (I only read 5/8 of a book before giving birth) but I understood that there is so much out there and it's my job to go seek it. I did a class when I can, I came here to read about experiences, I sought the information. Why do you need to be reminded that you need to look up information?

This is not to say I know everything, I've barely scratched the surface of motherhood but I'm not going to have this attitude that the world owes me everything. It's common courtesy to share what you know with others but there is some responsibility on you to ask!

Motherhood is insane and there is tremendous societal pressure to have children but I wouldn't buy a house without doing my homework. Why would you have a child and then be surprised that it's hard and that you had to do some research? It's literally one of the hardest human experiences lol.

What do y'all think? Am I missing the point?