Roommate thinks she owns the apartment
I live in a college apartment with 3 other roommates. We all get along pretty well, but one of my roommates has been pushing our boundaries lately. To start, we aren’t allowed to have any guests over, play loud music, or add decorations in the common space she thinks are “ugly.”
She naps on the couch for up to 8 hours most days in our common space which is also our kitchen (it’s a tiny apartment). She turns all the lights off and gets annoyed when we come into the kitchen and make food. We all bought the tv together, and she keeps the tv on even while she’s napping.
And that’s only the beginning of the trouble. She is very type A personality, EXTREMELY clean and organized, like i’m talking mopping the floor every single day and being passive aggressive if we leave our keys on the counter. The other day, I had left my pan on the stove for an hour so it could cool down before I washed it. She came home, literally GROANED and started aggressively mopping and wiping every surface down, moved my pan LOUDLY and wouldn’t speak a word to any of us for the rest of the night.
The next day, she made a chore chart without telling any of us, and said “i need to be the mom of this house.” We keep the common space extremely clean, are constantly wiping shit down, cleaning, sweeping, and mopping, whatever. Everyone does an even amount of daily chores in our perspective. But for some reason, she has a problem with the cleanliness of our COLLEGE APARTMENT. She even yelled at my roommate for leaving a few crumbs on the counter after making a drunken bagel. I would be open to the idea of a chore chart if we were messy or even if she discussed it with us beforehand, but she didn’t. She just assigned chores and is forcing us to complete them on a schedule. What should we do ?!?
EDIT: we haven’t gotten the chance to talk to her because yesterday she napped on the couch for 4 hours and stayed on the couch watching tv for a total of 16 hours. i got back from a party at 2 am and she was still there. starting to think it might be depression and i feel bad, but the situation is not chill. gonna talk to her today hopefully.