Stopped Talking to My Family for a Month
For context, I am married and thus living with my partner and kid. I do not live with my parents and elder sister anymore.
In September, my mother asked me to sign up for courses which she is a promoter for. This happened when I was still unemployed, and dealing with the awful first trimester of my second pregnancy. My mother said I could pay for the course with my skill future, so it is ‘free’. But my partner said the skill future should used for upskilling if I am still unable to secure a job. -> I tried to tell myself that perhaps my mother needed the commission from meeting her sales target because I could no longer afford to give her the $500 monthly allowance I am used to.
My elder sister’s friend stayed at my house for 2 weeks (her house undergone HIP). While she was at my house, we were quite close and she shared with me that my elder sister had been having sex with her boyfriend since long ago (they have been dating for 10 years already). I was shocked because when I wanted to get married to my partner, my family objected and my sister even went to great lengths to explain how our family is traditional and could not accept that my partner has proposed to me after dating for just 10 months. -> I couldn’t understand how my sister would lie and say the family is traditional yet engage in most untraditional acts of sex before marriage herself. Better still, I don’t understand why she wanted to sabotage my marriage and side with my parents back then.
I shared the sex before marriage of my sister’s relationship with my parents, and my parents didn’t react. I got angry at the way they interfered with my marriage decision yet not doing anything with my sister’s case. I ignored their whatsapp and phone calls. However, throughout this month, when they do WhatsApp me, they sent messages on me not treating my kid well because they feel my kid seems small compared to her age. -> I don’t understand how my parents can keep interfering with my life and not react or try to rebuild the trust with my elder sister so that she can be open with us?
As above, I hope I can receive some enlightenment on my current situation with my family. Thanks for sharing.