Hypersexuality and fear

I'm currently waiting for a diagnosis, but pretty certain I'm ADHD. I've just hit perimenopause and my symptoms of ADHD are through the roof. I haven't dated anyone for over ten years because of problems with hypersexuality. The only way I could deal with that fixation was to stop seeing men completely. Recently, I was asked out by a lovely guy, went on one date, and now I'm feeling like the hypersexual urges are back, even though we haven't done anything yet. I'm so mad at not being able to control myself. I'm seriously thinking of texting him and confessing how much of a mess I am right now, because one of us is bound to get their heart broken. I know myself and my habits. I might drop him like a hot potato next week, or become madly obsessed. I don't feel safe around anyone because I don't even know my own feelings, and sexual intimacy just makes everything more confusing. Advice?