Any divorced lesbians willing to connect about the mental anguish of it all?

Lesbian in my early 30's, two kids, in the process of getting divorced from my wife after being together for ~10 years. The divorce was something I asked for, but it's been feeling particularly hard lately, maybe in part due to the holiday season. It feels like it could be useful to connect with others who've gone through similar experiences and can share their wisdom/reassurance/insight. Thanks!