My male friend abused me while his partner watched

[Edit - I have to thank you all. I have taken notes, realised I have a lot to work on and will be starting therapy soon. All the comments were very insightful, especially about my own actions and behaviours.]

I (25F) went on a trip with my friends (26M and 26F). Let's call them Adam and Eve. Adam and Eve were my childhood friend. Although i grew apart from Eve, i had to stop talking to Adam because when I was in 12th having my board exams, he would text me to meet him everyday. I would say no, as I didn't have any time. Few days later he started saying he saw me smoking and would tell my parents. Mind you, I have never in my life smoked a cigarette. But Adam used to smoke back then and accused me of smoking too. I tried to make him understand that I do not smoke, and the place he thought he saw me at was the place I've never been to either. After which he started to abuse me calling me names and I blocked him. I then started getting abusive texts from his friend who I blocked too.

Started talking to them again 2 years back. Adam has always been extremely moody, hot and cold. Even back in childhood, he would talk to me depending on his mood. One day he would talk to me a lot, the very next day he'd be cold and completely ignore me. I confronted him, so he stopped this behaviour. Although he'd still occasionally be rude. He and his mother would call me a "psycho" to my face, and say stuff like "no one will be able to tolerate her in a relationship" and act like it was a joke. He'd say things like this everytime we met. He kept staring at me like a creep and then would say he has me figured out. I told him i didn't like it so he stopped. Mind you, this guy has ZERO guy friends. And i think i was his only friend as everyone i knew (girls,guys both) stopped talking to him and most people had a problem with him.

Adam was dating another girl for about 4 years and were in the talks to get married, but after a tragedy in Eve's house, they broke up and Adam started dating Eve. Eve had always liked Adam, but Adam never liked her in that way, and would say he never saw them getting into a relationship. Eve was never his type. There was also a pressure for Eve to get married so Adam decided on a whim that he'd marry her. Anyway, so that was weird. We accepted that.

We hanged out together often and it was for most of the part fun. I really appreciated Eve as a person and felt protective of her. Adam, I didn't like him too much but tolerated his nonsense for the sake of company. Also, i tried to ignore his shenanigans and see the person underneath whom i thought to be kind. So this trip - i had the largest sized trolley bag, while Eve had a medium one. Adam had the smallest (cabin size). We all had laptop bags. I had an additional bag because i carried food for all of us. My trolley bag was easily 40kgs which was difficult for me to carry but i was managing. Adam helped only on the first day but after that he'd just carry his own stuff, letting me and Eve struggle with ours. He wouldn't even offer any help. We had to carry these heavy luggages over the stairs of the station. It was really dreadful. But we did it. On top of that, he expected me to keep more of his stuff in my bag citing his bag is heavy. I was already carrying reusable water bottles for everyone in my laptop bag. It was already heavy, and on top of that i had to carry my trolley too. He asked me to keep his colddrink bottle, which i refused. After which he got angry and threw the bottle and started calling me "psycho" . He started saying I'm crazy. I ignored. He randomly ignored me throughout the trip, being rude at times and only talking to Eve. So was Eve. Rude to me often. It felt like they both came for a trip and i was an add on. Adam is very dominating, and expects everyone to do as he wish. Throughout the trip, if he wanted a smoke break, we would take a break. If he wanted to walk, we'd walk. If he wanted to no longer walk, we won't. Eve has absolutely no say and goes along with what Adam wants. I tried to do things my own way too. I did things that I wanted. I wanted to go to a popular vegetarian restaurant, but since they eat non veg at all times, we didn't go and instead ended up eating at dominos. Because we'd always wait for Adam when he smoked, or did anything- one time i wanted to go to a temple which was on the way, and told Adam and entered it - he didn't even bother waiting for 5 mins. He just walked away without even letting me know. Then later started to ignore me. I'm a non smoker, and if i had a problem with inhaling his smoke fumes, i was "problematic". I had to just take so much second hand smoke anytime we hanged out. But he had a problem with vape smell and everyone was expected to not smoke it if he's near. So much double standards. Last day of the trip, they were again behaving rudely and keeping to themselves. So i took off and started exploring places on my own. I ate in a cafe which i wanted to go to, and did my own stuff. For which later they called me "selfish". The 3 of us stayed in one room, and he would always have the ac at the lowest temperature. First day i had to take 2 blankets and even had to wear a jacket, still ended up getting low fever the next day. I told them to not switch on the ac but they wouldn't listen. Adam wanted everything done his own way. Finally i convinced him to atleast keep the temperature to 27. Or atleast switch off the fan. Both fan and ac were on all days. Ac at 25. That was the compromise from him. But i am "selfish".

The worst happened when we were in the train. Since the network was poor, i was transferring photos from Eve's phone to mine using Bluetooth. Adam started mocking me saying how is Bluetooth working if there's no internet. So i had to explain an adult "educated" man (who apparently did engineering) and his GF the science behind Bluetooth. I told them that's how airdrop works too. He was hell bent on proving me wrong and started getting hostile and took out his laptop and phone, and tried to send stuff. He kept saying "no we need wifi". He was getting extremely worked up, and i was too. Eventually when airdrop worked without any network, he started accusing me of fighting, and started saying this is how i behave and I start fights. He was equally or more worked up than me. Then he started accusing me of adding our trip photos to his family album on Google photos share. I showed him the setting where he had enabled "automatically add photos of people". Eve was constantly supporting him throughout and saying stuff like i added his smoking photos and his family will see. Even though no smoking photos were added. Then i told them to stop talking to me in this manner and the conversation was done for me. I started having my lunch and stopped speaking. He started lashing out at me, calling me selfish, saying i was not keeping their stuff in my bag during the trip?!?!, refused Eve from giving me her spare pad when i needed one, started saying that even my family can't tolerate me and everyone abuses me for a reason. He said I'm only good to hangout with for no more than 2 days. He said everyone hated me and that i was dumb. All this while i sat crying. I couldn't say a word. I already have very low self esteem and his words had triggered me. I couldn't help but cry. I didn't take a stand for myself. Eve was trying to calm him down. Just before lashing out at me, he had lashed out at Eve and had made her cry. I sat next to her and consoled her. When i was crying, Eve left me alone. She was with him the whole time. I had my earphones on because i didn't want to listen to anymore of what he was saying. After few hours, i heard Eve tell him to sort it out, and he kept repeating "I just told the truth". Eve offered me soup once, i saud no. She offered me a chocolate later, i said no. That's it. That was all her effort. I got down at the station and came home alone at night. Eve didn't bother to text me if i reached. In fact she didn't bother to text me for 2 weeks after which she texted "all ok?". She asked to meet, i said I'll see. No conversation after that. Adam called me once at 12am night, i didn't answer. He has been putting passive aggressive status on WhatsApp since. I didn't even go for Adam's birthday, let alone wished him. I have no desire to speak to them at all. I thought to myself if they take accountability and say sorry, i will talk to them as they're my only friends here. But they didn't.

I have taken so much abuse in life that it's very normalised. Even after being abused, i keep doubting myself and my experiences.

If you read this far, thank you. I appreciate you.

I want to know what could I have done in this situation? He kept abusing me, and i kept quiet and crying. I didn't say a single mean thing to him, while he called me a string of abuse words in hindi.

Edit - his latest WhatsApp statuses would read "Someone who tells the truth doesn't mind being questioned.A liar does.😌"

" "Not every man that is nice to you is flirting with you. Some mothers raised their sons to be gentleman.😌" " .. shit like these.