Testing Boundaries

The new twist on the sordid tale that is my life... He was notified on December 27th that his move-in date to the new place changed from January 4th to January 20th. He came to me with his tail tucked and asked if he could stay in the house with me for a few more weeks. I said okay but we maintain the current boundaries. From the beginning of all this I set two boundaries..... Don't touch me unless I ask for it and neither of us will date while we are under the same roof.

A few days ago he informed me that he was going to get a new STD test. That is something that he gaslit me in our marriage and said needed to be done every 6 months.... I had no idea that he was doing it because he was having unprotected sex with anyone that would take him. He tried to say I had a shitty doctor because she wasn't recommending that....I said no, that's normal for monogamous couples. He has also been heavily involved with his phone and texting and smiling. Even made a comment to me that if the additional 16 days was too much to handle he could go on Grindr and find someone to take him in for a few days. Today he disappeared for most of the day to take things to his new apartment and garage. He came back dressed to the nines smelling like a french whore like he had been on a date.

Thankfully, I did an emergency call with my therapist yesterday after the excessive phone use and STD test and she said it was his defense mechanism to try to regain control and make me react. To be clear, I don't care if he dates anyone else. I don't care what he does on his path of self destruction from here on out. All I care about is getting our settlement agreement signed and respecting the two boundaries I set. I don't know why I thought he would respect any boundaries when he disrespected me enough to do the things he did already but I guess I had high hopes.

Hopefully by his move out date we will have the paperwork to sign. I guess what I need from my support gallery is for someone to tell me that I can do this and not react until he is out of my house. I can withstand all of this until I get that agreement signed. I have already withstood more than most rational people would tolerate. I want it to be over and I want it to end peacefully regardless of how much he baits me to do the contrary.

It feels like that date is more finite in my mind now. If not, there is a large part of me that wants to drag some random man into my house and fuck him on the kitchen counter in front of him to prove that I don't want or need him there. We all know that's not a healthy mindset or decision, but that is where I am at and I need y'all to talk me off the ledge.