Bf's Ex Gf has been stalking and harassing me

I just realized recently I need to share my story. I've been quiet and let my stalker slander my name. I just hope that being able to share my story here will help me in some way. This has all happened over the span of August 2023 and August 2024. Just a warning this will be long. apologies in advance for formatting as I am on mobile.

Some background: My bf and myself are both 17 ex gf stalker is 19. I live in a very small rural town. bf will be called H and stalker will be A. when I started school I was very open about being bisexual and genderfluid.

On August 28th I started at school after moving into a new town 10 hours away from my old place. I didn't know anyone everyone at the school had grown up together. I met my current bf and we immediately hit things off and hungout. We ended up hanging out after classes the next week September 8th stuff happened and there was a picture of me and bf posted together on Instagram. A and H had broken up back in June I had no clue of their relationship until later. The next school day on the 11th everyone was talking about me and saying awful things A was telling people that I was the reason her and H broke up. Also that I was a whore and have an std. Just some awful stuff. I made the huge mistake of trying to speak to A (not knowing she was the one saying awful stuff about me). I said "HI A how are you what's up?" she ignored me and under her breath said "fuck off fggt". I responded with "wow homophobic much." which at the time I regretted but now I don't regret it as much.. later in the day she decided to walk to were I was sitting get up in my face and start screaming at me calling me immature childish clingy and a gross fggt. I hadn't even spoken to her more than once so the outburst really shocked me.

later throughout the months she made fake accounts to harass me and H. She used my exbsf to get my address and phone number. she started making fake Instagram accounts to message me and threaten to kill me or jump me. It got to the point she would be taking pictures near my house and having my exbsf send them to me (they both were in those photos). I finally was done and my family was just as affected by this as I had been. I was terrified to use the bathroom at school because A was making threats saying she was going to kill me the next time i was alone with her. I had gotten 4 uti's because I'd refuse to use the bathroom at school. I went to the principal numerous times with obvious proof of her harassment and stalking. the only good thing he did was implement a no contact order within and after school hours. Shocker he never reprimanded A for the multiple times she violated it he instead said that he would suspend me and A. I was over it and my family was too so I unenrolled from classes thinking the harassment and stalking would quit.

it just made things worse so I went with my mother to the court house to get the paperwork for a stalking protection order. I at the age of 16 was forced to go and ask a judge to grant a restraining order against my bfs 18 year old ex gf. I won the temporary order and things were chill for 2 weeks. Then my ex bsf started trying to contact H while she was with A. I felt hopeless due to how it went from the principal not doing anything to the police not doing anything. A had continuously violated the temporary order and the local police did nothing. I then learned of how A's father worked for the local police and it all clicked. Nothing was done because her father wouldn't let it and was later confirmed.

March comes along and then it was the day of the hearing for the permanent order. I go in terrified being in a room with the person who ruined my social life and ruined my mental health to a point I wasn't leaving my house. I went in expecting A to have a crazy attorney to fight the order. Instead she was sat on the left side of the court room with her parents. I started out explaining my side and proving why the order was needed it comes to her turn.. A started fighting with the judge making false statements showing evidence proving what she was saying was fake. It was a mess I kept my cool and went on explaining bring up witnesses and proving my need for the order. it was granted and I felt the weight lift off my chest. although it was short lived. I got 2 months of peace then A's family then started participating and supporting her behavior ie following me around parking right next to us attempting to get me fired from my job.

I remember this night as it was engraved into my memory it was may and I was laying on my bf's bed watching a movie everything was nice things had been quiet. Randomly at 1am my phone started blowing up with calls from Alaska California Colorado and places out of the us. I was freaked out due to how I had just had my number changed before me and my ex bsf had a falling out. so only 6 people had my number. I immediately knew ex bsf gave my number to A or something like that. I started having a full blown panic attack ran to the bathroom and was freaking out I started getting texts from a person. This guy started saying 2 girls were giving out my number and address on a website like omegal. I was immediately terrified I was 17 having adult men calling me leaving me texts and voicemails. Some of them were legit rape threats.. The rape threats were definitely the worst they made me realize my ex bsf was just there for me when it was convenient she knew I had been raped and how it had affected me to a point I'll never be the same. the other messages were adult men wanting to date me or sending me sexual messages. This one kind guy explained everything fully described A's room and what she looks like as well and my ex bsf. I knew that hopefully something would finally happen. I attempted to call the police then realized they wouldn't do anything. I called my parents freaking out and crying and screaming "A just broke the order I don't know what to do" I had work the next morning and didn't know what to do. my parents calmed me down and said they'd get me after work and we would figure things out. I struggled to sleep worrying about what else A would do. I went to work and immediately at 10am called dispatch for state police hoping they would help. I had to leave early because I was stressed thinking "what if A gave out my work and is going to show up herself or have other people do so". I left work and turned my phone back on to a text from a state police officer saying he'd meet me at my house asap to get things figured out. I went home printed all the call records texts and everything out. That night was spent helping the officer with evidence gathering then at 11:45pm I got a phone call I zoned out and was scared she yet again would get away with it then I heard "I have just picked up A and I am transporting her to county jail you found yourself a good witness and i hope after this you'llbe able to sleep well tonight" (the jail is 3 hours from my small town). I finally thought it was over. I went to the sentencing hearing read a vis she took a plea deal for 1 year probation and 50 hours community service.

2 days after being put on probation she decided she wasn't done. I was with H and at the store parked furthest from the entrance. I went in for 10 minutes came out and A and her bf were parked right next to us. A ended up being in the passenger seat just smiling at me. I was about to freak out I ran into our car H and I drove off. since then A's family has continued to harass and stalk me in place of her. A's bf is now following my car around with A in it flipping me off videoing me taking photos whatever they can to scare me. All I have is my boyfriend and my family.

Sadly this isn't a happy ending but if something good does happen I will update I'd people are interested. typing this out has made me feel a bit better and I plan to try my best to heal from this.