I need guys of Tinder opinions please

I am a 28F who is 3 months out of an 8 year relationship (he left me).

I got on Tinder a month ago after finding out he was in a new relationship barely a month after our breakup.

Alright enough of the backstory…let’s get to it…so for a month I’ve only been messaging guys on Tinder. It seems like some guys just want a penpal. Some want a girl to sext and never meet up and then recently I met a guy who actually wanted to meet up.

We matched on a Wednesday and texted all day on Thursday. Initially, he asked me out to dinner for the Saturday coming up and then escalated it to then potentially going out to drink and then getting a hotel room. Then he asked me to come over the same night we had began texting. I agreed.

During our text leading up to meeting he was a mix of nice but also super sexual. For some context he has a son…we were chatting about his son and then he just started adding in sexual stuff while talking about his son he literally said to me “don’t you want to come and ride his dad” like ew. And then just talking about tattoos I told him I had none but I had a high pain tolerance so I’d probably be okay. To which he proceeded to ask since I had a high pain tolerance would I be into an*al.

I know all of this during texting was a red flag. But he also was sprinkling in compliments and I’ve been so lonely and sad I just was liking the attention. So I went to his house that night. While we had been texting I told him I didn’t want to have s*x just yet.

I went there and he immediately started rubbing my leg, started talking about me being his gf and told me there was no one else he’d rather be with that night. (GAG).

Anywho things escalated we went to his to his room. But I pushed him off and told him no. Well he I guess he got upset and he put his hand around my neck after I said no. It didn’t hurt but he still did it AFTER I said no. And then he stopped . And then he asked if he did something wrong and if I didn’t find him attractive. (Keep in my mind he did this all while his son was upstairs).

Anyways, I left. And I knew when he was walking me out to my car the vibes felt off and I figured I probably wouldn’t hear from him. I texted him when I got home telling him I liked him and wanted him but just wanted to take things slow. He said he was fine with taking things slows but then that whole next day he just was dry texting me and then eventually stopped texting me. And I haven’t heard from him in a few days.

I’m assuming he only wanted sex even though he was talking about me being his gf and he was calling me beautiful and hot and sexy. So I guess it was all just a ploy to get me to sleep with him.

What do you guys think? I thought he’d try harder to sleep with me after the fact but he’s completely ghosted me. What does this mean?