Masculine scent, smug male satisfaction etc. How do you feel about explicit male/female mentions in books?

Listening to the audiobook for {Behind the net by Stephanie Archer} after reading it a while back and these are just a few phrases I picked out. I remember they struck me as odd when reading it, too but I feel like I have read a few books this year that mentioned random things as male/female, be it body parts (alright, this still kinda makes sense lol), feelings, scents or whatever.

I read FM, MM and FF and don't mind characters having very traditionally feminine or masculine traits or being more fluid, but for some reason specifying them as masculine or feminine feels weird to me and always takes me out of the story. Especially if it's first person narration.

Like, I am not a saint, I have felt smug satisfaction at one-upping an ex before, but never did I think to myself, I am feeling smug FEMALE satisfaction. How do you feel about these? Is this something you notice in books, too and if so, do you find them weird or does this add to the story for you?