28F clueless after dating the love of my life (28M) for six years

Hi, I'm a 28 year old female who has been dating 28 year old male for six years now. I have applied to complete my post graduation studies from the US and he is already in the US. Since Dec 2023, I have been asking him to marry me or atleast get engaged. The story: In dec 2023, I asked him if we can get engaged. Him: Let me talk to my parents. (Parents know about the relationship from the very beginning) Me: no pressure, I know you have an elder sister who isn't married. Him: I talked to my family, that's not an issue. Let's do it in June 2024.

Cut to March 2024, Him: sorry my mom is saying you guys cannot get engaged because of his sister (unmarried) Me: But you talked to her Him: yes, but now she is saying no.

After a few arguments and tears, acceptance, it's not happening in June.

June 2024 Me: we will get engaged/married in Dec 2024 na? Him: yes, don't you worry.

September 2024, Me: let's plan for dec, I want to wear this color. Him: Wait, I talked to my mom. Our pandit is saying that I should not take any major decisions in life until April 2025

Context: He doesn't believe in these things but his parents do. And his sister and father haven't been doing well, in their case a lot of things this pandit said he come true so she wants us to understand. I'm a doctor and working towards post grad in US. He works as a dara scientist and is financially independent. He really wants us to get married asap too.

Me: I don't want to postpone Him: There is another thing, if visa thing works out, I'm cannot travel to India till oct 2025. So let's get married in 2025. Me: but you will be here in dec 2024, let's do court marriage. I want this, I want to be able to live with you in the US. Him: I tried but moms belief is firm. She is worried our relationship won't work.

My dilemma- I love that guy. Head over heels even today. I was so excited for everything but I don't see a future anymore. I don't know what to do. I cannot let someone control my life like this. He will come and aak me to adjust few more months if his mom says that. I don't have a say at all. It's a constant push and pull between me and his family. While I don't balme him entirely but I don't think I want this life.

I have seen my parents fight all my life, they are toxic af to each other. The constant fights Amit whose family said what.

I don't know what to do but I do know that I'm crazy for him. But I also know this kind of life won't work for me. What do I do?