Women's sexuality works differently than men's sexuality...

Men often say that it's impossible to be friends with an attractive woman if both parties are single. This is because the two things men need in a partner are fulfilled. A. She's attractive. And B. She's a friend. Men want a friend that they get to sleep with. For women, it's more complex.

I think, initially, the men that women are attracted to fall under a narrower “type” than the broad reach that men have. These types vary wildly from woman to woman, but think of them like genres of music, with pop (stereotypical male beauty standard) obviously being the most popular. Men have types too, but it works differently, men's is more so an adjustable preference. Maybe you don’t have Margot Robbie at a 10, but men can generally look at her and say she’s attractive. Meanwhile, if Ryan Gosling ain’t a woman’s type, she’s gonna tell you she doesn’t find him attractive at all.

However... if you were to think looks are the only thing that matters, you'd be dead wrong. Women, generally, are less visual than men are. A woman can lose attraction for a man that’s her “type”, just as she can gain attraction for a man who isn’t, and this comes down to behavior. Most often… “masculine behavior”. This additional arousal switch accounts for the discrepancy between men and women. Luigi Mangione is a hot guy, but he doesn’t become someone that women want to sleep with until he does something. Masculine behaviors include traits like dominance, confidence, ambition, athleticism, competitiveness… Sometimes, extroversion. These can also fall under what we might call “leadership qualities”. They show that someone knows what they want, and can get it. This triggers arousal in women because it makes them feel safe, and helps get rid of uncertainty / anxiety.

Obviously, I'm speaking in generalities.