ISTIKHARA WORKS.
salam everyone, Thora sa dissapointment wala phase chal raha hai. My friend introduced me to a doctor friend of hers who liked me and wanted to get to know me for marriage. we talked on WhatsApp and kept it professional. he had been married before but that didn't bother me, my focus was on compatibility and I asked him questions like:
What are your expectations from me as a wife? As a partner? As a friend?
(this one’s personal but crucial) how was your last relationship like and how do you think you contributed in it ending?
what are your triggers?
what is your relationship like with your parents and how do you think that will manifest in our relationship?
how do you resolve conflict? Do you need space or do you prefer talking it out?
He was older than me (which I'm ok with since I did want someone more mature than me) I liked his answers and could imagine a future with him, we had similar values, goals and level of connection with Allah. I made sure to not get attached to him and also made loads of dua/istikhara. I KID YOU NOT, a couple hours after my istikhara I get a text that "you're a good girl blah blah blah but too young and I don't want to rush you since I want to get married 1 saal mein cuz my parents said so. wish you the best. (I got 0 self esteem, he literally said this!!!!)" I was thankful to Allah because I definitely did not want to be with someone who wasn't sure about me or wasn't willing to fight for me. but man, I was a bit disappointed. However I do know that Allah's plan for me is better and sab theek hojaye ga. moral of the story: DO ISTIKHARA!!!!!! even if you think the other person is perfect on paper, Allah knows best!!!