24F - Looking for My Sniper, Sniper, Sniper

Can't believe I'm doing this, but here we go. Best case scenario: I’m your passenger princess for life.

Basic details:

- Age/Sex: 24, Female

- Height: 5'2

- Weight: 57 kg

- Marital status: Single 

- Education: Pharm. D (Doctor of Pharmacy)

- Work: Freelance writer. Currently working with a retainer client.

- City: Lahore. 

I was born and raised in Saudi Arabia and only moved to Pakistan 7 years ago.

- Religion: Sunni Muslim. 

I don't believe in celebrating Milad un Nabi / visiting darbars / using taweez / khatam and urss or any other sort of bidd’ah or shirk. I try to pray 5 times a day (and tahajjud occasionally), do my adhkaar, and practice hijab. I also wear abaya when I’m outside. 

Of course, I'm far from being a perfect Muslim but I'm trying to learn my deen instead of inheriting the sub-continent’s version of Islam.

- Hobbies/Interests:

Very basic, but I loveee watching movies and TV shows. I'm a sucker for mystery thrillers and crime, but love a cheesy, romcom as well. Oh and also, space movies. I'll watch anything about outer space, time travel, and extraterrestrial life forms. Inject Interstellar in my veins. 

If I have some free time, or it's the weekend, best believe I'm in my bed, watching something to escape reality.  I'm into gaming as well (mainly because I write about games) but I don't get the time to play. (sigh) Besides that, I enjoy baking and reading. And of course, scrolling and spamming my loved ones with funny memes. 

- Family:

Mum and three younger brothers, who are in university. My beloved father passed away 2 years ago. And my extended family is relatively small too. 

- Do I want kids? Yes, but I'd like to wait a couple of years and enjoy life with my SO before bringing kids into the mix.

Some fun facts about me:

  • I'm a little brown girl who loves simplicity. I live a simple life, focused on my work and my family. I’m clean, responsible, kind, smart, and an empath.
  • I'm the eldest daughter and have this innate need to fix everything and everyone around me, and do everything all by myself without asking for help. (but I'd love it if someone would just take the lead and tell me "mein sambhaal lunga" so I can shut off my brain for a while)
  • I don't agree with modern-day pseudo-feminism and I believe Islam is a truly feminist religion. God gave us all the rights but culture takes them away.
  • I got through five years of university with minimal male interaction and believe in having set boundaries with the opposite gender.
  • I'm trying to become healthier, have a better work-life balance, progress in my career, and sleep more. I'm still not the woman I want to be, but I'm getting there.
  • I'm family-oriented and already have a vision for my future parenting practices. 
  • I'm not materialistic and generally low maintenance. 
  • I'm an organized person, big on putting everything back in its place. I love clean spaces but I don't mind messy beds on the weekend.
  • I'm a mix of desi and Western. I'm spending my days in hoodies and sweatpants but definitely change into a 3pc when I have people over. Similarly, I love listening to all sorts of music, from Talwiinder to Chase Atlantic. 
  • I put on a strong front, but deep down, I'm really sensitive and notice the little things.
  • I can't cook elaborate desi dishes right now, but I’m learning and can make heart-shaped rotis for you. 
  • I'm a yapper and make lame jokes, and love being silly whenever appropriate. (and wouldn't mind if you roast me - as long as you let me roast you back xD)
  • I love making lists. (can you tell?)

Deal breakers: 

  • Guy is not religious. Praying and fasting is the bare minimum.
  • Guy moves abroad and leaves his wife behind.
  • Guy is a mama’s boy and cannot balance between his mother and his wife.
  • Guy is unnecessarily rude and can’t explain things without belittling me.
  • Not kind to waiters, janitors, and everyone who’s “below” him.
  • Does not consider my family as his family too.
  • Too restrictive and doesn’t believe in giving personal space.
  • Thinks his word is above all.
  • Stingy when it comes to his family.
  • All sorts of drugs and haram things.
  • Greedy for dowry.
  • Dry texter, dry personality.

What I'm looking for:

  • Education: At least a Bachelors degree.
  • Age: 25 to 28. 
  • City: Lahore.
  • Religion: Sunni, with the same values as me and the desire to be a better Muslim and go to Jannah together. 
  • House/Family: I don’t mind living with in-laws, but I do wish to have a private space where I can roam around in my husband’s t-shirts, lol. A separate portion would work.

Personality wise: Goes without saying, but someone who takes good care of his personal hygiene, is God-fearing, organized, and is self-sufficient. (uh-oh, another list :p)

  • Someone who balances Deen and Dunya. I don't want someone who's conservative and extreme in his opinions but rather someone who understands that I can’t be perfect all the time. We all have highs and lows with our imaan and I don’t want a “molvi” imposing things on me.
  • Someone who earns enough to support the family and has a vision to grow in the future. Just someone with a provider mindset, because Allah made men the providers and protectors. :) (And of course, I wouldn’t mind us growing together.)
  • Someone who is kind, honest, loyal, open to communication, understanding, emotionally intelligent, and FUN to be around. I need to feel emotionally safe with you – be my “safe space” where I can cry and ramble without judgment. Someone who doesn’t have anger issues and is patient. 
  • Someone who can communicate in English and hold conversations with me. (no, I don’t need to see an IELTS score :p). Basically, just someone who listens to understand (not only answer), speaks calmly when angry, and is willing to work through difficult conversations (if needed). 
  • Someone who wouldn't mind my reel spams, would have 3 AM talks with me about anything and everything, and lets me put face masks on him.
  • And lastly, someone who isn’t too skinny because I’m more of a curvy/chubby girl myself. (saath achay lagna is zaroori to take cute selfies, hehe). I’m all for personality over looks though!

Put simply, I’m looking for someone who’d be my ride-or-die (and I’ll be the same for him). I want us to be best friends and spend our lives being there for each other – without fear of cheating, unfaithfulness, and toxicity. Someone who understands that relationships require EFFORT from both sides and that the “spark” isn’t supposed to fade away with time. Bonus points if you smell good, are funny, and can make me laugh uncontrollably!

We’re not perfect beings, so always having a soft corner for your spouse and the ability to forgive and compromise goes a long way. :) If you think we’d be a good match and can vibe together, hit me up with your profile attached. 

I’ll involve my family once we’re both sure of each other and have had good, healthy, deep discussions about the future.

Sorry not sorry, if this is too long. May Allah help us all find the coolness of our eyes, Ameen :) 

(PS: if you're looking for Miss Universe, I'm not the one, but good luck finding her.)