Why is having sex right before bed the default?
In most Tv shows and Movies where it is a legit long-term couple, they are usually portrayed as having sex right before bed, then going to sleep. As well as my girlfriends in real life say they usually have sex late at night.
Now for me this always seemed strange. By the time I'm in bed I am already showered, teeth brushed, retainer popped in, hair rollers already in place, and I'm either watching crap on my phone or on my kindle. The absolute last thing I want to at that moment is to have sex. I just can't fathom how majority of people do this. I am not getting into bed before showering, but I also have to shower after sex. Am I supposed to just shower twice in the span of two hours? And also showering and brushing my teeth again is just going to wake me up again. A whole other issue as well is if I happen to have a large dinner, no way am I having sex on a full stomach.
Now morning sex makes perfect sense. You can throw your sheets in the wash when you are done, you can shower and brush your teeth, you also have energy as you have just woken up. Only downside is potentially morning breath (but I love my husband enough that that doesn't really bother me). So why isn't this the standard. Hell, even afternoon sex seems more convenient.
The only reason I can think to wait for right before bed is if you have kids or roommates. I obviously do not have kids, but I don't understand the difference between having sex after they go to sleep vs before they wake up. They're asleep either way. I guess that goes for roommates as well. I know some couples have diff4erent work schedules, but even I get up 2 hours before my husband does, and we're still on the same page, he usually just sleeps after while I get ready for work.
Now, I am not asking for responses like "do what works for you", I do, me and my husband are very happy. I am just genuinely curious what is the benefits or doing it at night. There seems to be none despite it being the default. So, why is having sex right before bed the default?