My husband became slowly became violent after marriage

Salaam, I have converted after couple months after meeting my husband. I’m still new to Islam and to the teachings. We had got married legally and islamically in 2022 — we’d get into fights / arguments here and there but nothing too bad until a month after being married. He started insulting me.. and belittling me but I wanted to be understanding due to the hardships he was going through.

Progressively the abuse started getting worse to him grabbing my face aggressively as the first physical encounter to a few days ago.. as ONE of the worst ones.. he pushed me so hard I hit the wall and fell, and I was crying so hard. When I moved over to the bed I didn’t do something he had asked me to do — he hovered over me and started punching me in the back, side, arm, and face once. He only stopped because I had a panic attack and couldn’t breathe. He says he’s allowed to hit me and that I’m supposed to obey him.

He claims some things are allowed in Islam but I’m so confused and scared. I’m so terrified if islamically I’m allowed to speak about this… we have one child together and he’s only a baby, I don’t know what to do. I keep thinking and saying he’d stop inshallah but I’m terrified.

He was never like this before but it’s like he’s two different people. I love him so much, I just don’t know what to do

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UPDATE:

since the last posting, I did stay.. I told loved ones about what was happening to me so now our family is aware but he did hit me one more time after that last time

usually it’s because of something I made him angry about and that very last time I really didn’t do anything at all—I cooked, cleaned, finally sat down to relax and he was just upset then told me to “get the F** away” from him.

He had punched me 3x, 2x on the body and 1 attempted on the face.

I went to his family the next day to speak about what I’ve been holding in, that he’s been harming me for about the past two years.

I held the emotions in until a week after the incident and reported him to the police

Moved all my belongings to my parent’s, and he was arrested on a temporary restraining order for about a week.

He called me when he got out and I let my emotions get the best of me — I moved back…

But now I just feel so numb to it, he hasn’t hit me since but he still verbally and emotionally abusing me.. saying these things that are happening like this because I’m not a good Muslim (not able to pay rent due to him losing his job since he was arrested)

How is it that he still blames ME, due to him causing me pain

I don’t know what I’m waiting for anymore.. I generally just feel guilt when I think about wanting to divorce, I don’t understand why.. He talks that I’m taking his child away from him but it’s not like I ever wanted this.