I don't want bottom surgery. I want society to stop sexualising my clothed genitals

95% of my bottom dysphoria would be gone, if people were just normal about me having a penis, but no. I just wanna wear jeans, skirts, swimwsuits etc without tucking, but just the fact that I have a penis makes it perverted for people. I'm NOT showing it off, I just wanna exist while wearing clothes. Nobody cares if you can see the outline from a cis person, but as soon as you're trans it gets fetishised and therefore having "the wrong one" is seen as a kink to those idiots. I don't want society to be the reason for me to get bottom surgery.