Seeking advice: Struggling with Peers in leadership team.

I am 2 years into working within my current agency (health care and mental health sector) and about 10 years into my leadership journey. I am value and vision aligned with my agency and direct supervisor. I consider myself to be a kind, clear and effective leader and am growth focused and my feed back from my teams, peers and superiors has all supported this so far in my career. The team I lead is settled and the growth has been amazing since I moved into the program a year ago.

In the last year we have had an almost compete turn over in our leadership team and it is almost entirely new leaders. The team in struggling as a whole, but we have solid leadership from our direct supervisor and she is doing everything she can to set it straight.

Here is where I need advice: I am experiencing a total break down in relationships between myself and my peers and I am at a loss of what to do. They all seem to align and reinforce their approaches with each other, which frankly often lack bigger picture, context and experience and are very frontline aligned. I get it, I was there at the beginning of my journey as a leader as well. But we are struggling as there is a vacuum of reinforcing voices supporting this ineffective approach and it is hurting clients staff and agency.

My supervisor is frustrated. I’m frustrated. And today tipped me over.

My peer group has dubbed me as “bossy”, (despite it never having been a concern with past peers and supervisors) and as such has taken to flat out ignoring my asks for help or handing over of tasks that are not mine to own. One has even gone as far as telling their staff to not come to me at all ( to the point that two separate staff have had to approach me for something and feared formal repercussion for it) despite me being the appropriate resource or manager for many situations.

After calling an emergency huddle today to deal with an urgent situation, (common practice) some vital team members flat out ignored the request and didn’t even respond to the ask despite it being a real time situation. I later found out they didn’t attend because of this idea that I am trying to be their boss. I am so fed up, and it is standing in the way of me being able to do my job.

I have spent significant time in reflection, solo, with a coach, with my supervisor, and have adjusted my approach again and again but I cannot seem to figure out how to work with this team of peers.

I am at my whits end. I LOVE my agency and the work we do in community but I came home and looked for other jobs. I don’t want to leave, but I’m out of patience empathy or ideas on what to do.

My position is a nearly impossible task given the current climate of health care, HR crisis, remote location and massive portfolio. I absolutely cannot do the job without a team, and it is totally normal to deal with a potentially life threatening situation in which we HAVE to work as a team on a regular basis (ie today).

I recognize I need to let go of wanting to be liked by my peers and just do the job, I can wrap my head around that, but I am absolutely at a loss about how to hand over tasks, request help, function as a team when I am outside of the vacuum and the team is inside it completely disconnected from client and agency needs and painting me as power hungry and bossy.

Any advice?