Questions involving some... unconventional desires

so, for some context. ive been a member my whole life, im not married, but working on being worthy to be married in the temple. but, for a long while now... ive had some... lets say "unique" desires. as time has gone on, ive felt this... friction between my faith and my desires only grow. so... im here to ask some questions, in an attempt to get some clarity

1: are members, when married and both consenting, allowed to partake in "crossdressing", specifically for the men? if not, why? what rules or doctrine would it be violating

2:... are members allowed to partake in >! pegging and other forms of anal play on men !< ? if not, why? again, what law / doctrine would it be violating?

im not asking to stoke fires or anything... its just... this stuff has been weighing on me and i have no idea where else to go for an answer. everywhere else ive look has been very vague... and im too chicken to talk to anyone about it.

you can judge me if you wish... but i would prefer answers over judgement.