Financial Infidelity in African Marriages

Yes, this is another relationship post but sio za kawaida za kugongewa, cheating na kurudia exes.

I’m sure we have all grown up in african houses and have heard stories or even seen women in marriages who buy land and hide title deeds, hide money in secret accounts, etc. I’m sure some will compare this to men having secret families but that’s different. Guys with secret families know their marriages will be over immediately the wife knows about it but this isn’t the case for women buying assets and hiding them. So, women buy land, cars, hide money in accounts alafu you store all the documents at your parent’s place. Why? What’s the point of having a life partner and not trusting them at all? Y’all expect men to build houses and their lives with you in mind while you’re out here being secretive about major things. Some will argue that it’s necessary for women to have their own money, but i will argue that its necessary for anyone in a marriage to have their own money but buying assets and hiding them from your partner!?! Surely si ukue single tu and you buy as many assets as you want without having to do it in secrecy. Oh wait, ukiwa single you won’t have a man paying the bills for you as you pretend to have no money kumbe unasave kubuy mashamba.

And this also ties with how most men in marriages have their wives listed as their next of kin but the women have their parents listed. If you can’t have an open and honest partnership with someone wachaneni bana!