Final stand down with JNMIL

Here is the text message I want to send to a group chat with my husband and MIL. Can anyone help me write it as to confront her narcissistic behavior and stand up for myself without sounding too harsh? I’m trying to put my foot down for the last time with her.

Summary of background: we were cool, she treated me like absolute crap over Christmas and lied about stuff I did behind my back. — “Good morning!

I want to say a few things that I hope will clarify so we can all move on, and no one will like what I am about to say but I'm willing to let bygones be bygones.

This is not an attack.

The letter was not an attack. It was a clarification of how I felt, in a way that made me comfortable.

I do not feel comfortable talking in person, especially one on one, because I feel like that trust I had was ruined over the way I was treated unfairly and rudely over Christmas. I understand that you didn't want to talk to me because, quote, I'm "not your child" but I feel as if the respect and feeling of safety in terms of speaking in-person was ruined and taken away after I was lied about with no reason behind it, and treated crudely and harshly for no reason. I did nothing that should have caused the treatment I received, and only wanted an apology after clarifying the way I felt.

I never meant to cause any stress in your life, and I do not want to repeat myself but I will for the sake of standing up for myself.

I never blocked you on anything. To reiterate, I removed my Facebook profile but never blocked your phone number. I didn't receive any text message or call via phone after Christmas, as claimed.

There will be no girl time or one on one time, because I am not going to risk any ramifications of what I say to be twisted or talked about behind my back without the ability to prove what I truly said.

Everything was fine the summer before Christmas and it all changed. I want to clarify that my relationship with [husband] does not take him or his daughter away from you, because the vibe I get a lot is that there is fear I'm going to remove them from your life. Whether that is true or not, I'll never know, but I figured I'd clarify.

I am very tired of feeling like the villain over the past two years for simply trying to communicate the way I do comfortably - writing. And standing up for myself, period.

As for now, even though I never blocked you on anything, I will now, because I am removing myself from feeling this way and focusing on growing my own family with [husband]. His relationship with you and his family has nothing to do with our relationship together, and I'd like to clarify that me no longer wanting contact does not mean that I am making a similar decision for him.