Experiences with surrogacy?

My third FET just failed and it's likely an ectopic. I feel just broken right now. I had asked my RE about surrogacy in the past because I've always had a gut feeling that my body just isn't made for this and she was not only dismissive, but highly critical. Fast forward to this past week and she's made an introduction to a surrogacy agency and we have an initial consult next week. It’s sad knowing that she's also lost faith in my body and my fears are confirmed but at least I can move forward with alternatives now.

To try and look forward with hope, I would love to hear from both parents that went this route and also surrogates about anything I should know about the gestational carrier process before getting into it but also the emotional side of things...

Parents, what was it like to give up so much control? I'm totally Type A so already thinking of ways my head will be spinning despite being so grateful should this work out. Did you have any feelings along the surrogacy path that surprised you? Any wisdom would be greatly appreciated.

Surrogates, what made you decide to start carrying peoples' babies?? What is it like to give up something that you've cared for for so many months? I look at it as a purely magical gift where I'm coming from so please tell me more!

Also, hey! If you're a surrogate in Canada or the US let me know. [Please let me know if this breaks any community rules and I will take this part of my post out immediately!]

Thanks so much in advance <3