Lane Kim deserved a better mother

I know it's been talked about non-stop how Lane deserved better overall from the show, from love interests to her relationship with her mother, but I am currently rewatching and feeling very exhausted, frustrated, and angry for Lane. She is genuinely alone in this world.

Maybe it's because I was not raised religious or very strict in any sense (my relationship to my mother was more akin to Rory/Lorelai where it counted), and so I may not fully understand the depth of structure and rules that some families adhere to, but I just could not get passed the times in the show where Mrs.Kim would see the damage and turmoil between her and Lane, and how much it would deeply affect her, and STILL nothing would change.

The first time (that I THOUGHT would be a turning point for the better) was when Lane ran away in the middle of the night to go play CBGB's with the band, and when Mrs.Kim realized that Lane had called both Luke AND Lorelai, but never her own mother, she was so hurt and looked completely taken aback. I really thought just that moment alone would make Mrs.Kim reconsider how lacking in affection and trust her relationship with her own daughter was, but nope!

Instead, Lane comes home and they have a heart to heart about the difference in their realities, and instead of her trying to understand her daughter or embrace her in even the LEAST, she shuns her and tells her to get out, and that daughters do not make the rules.

I know it's just a show, and even worse, I recognize that this is a reality for many people with seriously strict families in ways that they do not relate.. But you always long for that happy ending, or at least the possibility of it, and for Lane it never happens.

I guess it wouldn't bother me so much if at SOME POINT throughout the show, they had some kind of turning point in their relationship where Mrs.Kim became just slightly more understanding and less demanding of her daughter, but instead it seemed that Lane only continued to grow up with her mother's controlling voice in the back of her head, and never actually became her own person at all. Never fulfilled her dream of being a rockstar in ANY sense, and pretty much just became her mother by the time we saw her in AYITL. She had so much potential, how tragic.