Straight Men are Often so Unempathetic to the Plight of Gay Men

A gay guy posted on AskMen recently about how he feels disconnected from straight men, and the comments were about exactly what you'd expect. Very self-victimizing straight men jumping to defend other straight men that they don't even know and trash talking the gay man making the post. The post was not inflammatory at all, the gay man was sharing a very real issue with how his straight friends make casually homophobic and misogynistic remarks, so he doesn't feel like he fits in with them.

*Some* men in the comments were understanding and they told him he might not be in the right area for developing deep friendships (rural areas in the US are typically not great for gay men), but the vast majority of the comments were just blaming him for feeling sorry for himself and for judging his straight friends. "You're pathetic". "Grow a dick". "Homophobic jokes and remarks are fine". Lmao. How much more self-victimizing can you get? As if *they* (the straight men) are the one's "being attacked". Gross.

Obviously not all straight men are homophobic, but I think a lot of them have latent homophobia that they either don't want to recognize or don't want to admit to. The main users of the F slur towards gay men are, by far, straight men. The main bullies of gay men, are straight men. It makes sense why he'd feel isolated as a gay man in a world of straight men when he has no gay friends. But almost all of the straight men in the comments were so unempathetic to his plight. I was appalled, honestly.