Instinct confusion

I’m a 9w1 64 and it’s so weird. I have a weirdly obsession with food and sports but deeply I don’t belive those things really matter. It’s just something time consuming and I got from my family (obsessed mom and sister) Beside that I crave alone time all the time, I like to spend time with ppl but I wanna go pretty fast home. I am also really great with them and I can read a lot of body language etc. (So) I feel like I need so give something to society. But sx instinct is there. I flirt all the time, it’s my default so I hardly notice when I do it. I’m social settings I need someone who I can focus on- where I give my whole kinda sx energy to and he gives it to me, otherwise I’m bored. I crave to merge with ppl into one soul. What aspects are important for typing the instincts in a 9?