I feel wasted on him

He (M38) is a good man, he just appears to have run out of patience for how affectionate I (39F) am. I feel like he thought I would calm down eventually. He loves a long hug and a nice chaste kiss, its like he's comfortably 80 while I'm left behind with a regular libido. Our DB which has been going on for about a year and a half now and I consume smut like its my job. I'm essentially having a series of one sided emotional affairs with fictional men. And my husband is supportive and great just...extremely LL while I am not. The rejection is absolutely crushing.