I thought people, in general, are progressive.

I live in the outskirts of chennai. I was raised in vellore and I come from a family, where education is given the first preference and Second, all women in our family go to a job or do business. In short, women in our family are expected to be financially independent and after I said that I will be SAHM for the first 3 years of my child's life, my family had a surprised face and they still encourage me to pick up a job to make myself financially independent. Anyway, I thought most people are progressive in their mindset, but reality hit me hard after moving to Chennai. Here are some examples from my neighbours 1. 14 year old school girl (from rajastani family, grew up in chennai) wants to go to college, become an air hostess, but she often says to me. Akka, my parents are supportive, but I think I am scared I will get married by parents(forced by relatives) when I turn 18.(Just like her mom did). 2. 10th standard tamil boy wants to go to college in future , but his family is hesitant as they need extra help around the shop. 3. 21 year old girl with two children, one in arms and another a toddler and she has already done family planning. She doesn't have a college degree Or a job. 4. One women openely said that she makes her daughter study so that her daughter would educate her younger brother and also she is jealous of next door aunty, who has two sons, but not her. 5. One women is scared to let her daughter go to college hostel so she is searching for nearby colleges. When I asked, will you send your daughter to a job, in future. She said no, she will do Bsc and then Msc and then Marraige, kids and so on.

If this is the case for many women, who has access to school, college and many job opportunities. Idk what will be case and mindset for women/men who live in the remote village.